Being Happy and Alone on Valentine’s Day

I had originally thought of this idea for a YouTube video, but some things happened and now here we are as a blog post instead. I just changed my mind on the video idea so that’s it, nothing serious, I am just a very indecisive person … but anyways I had written a script for the said video and I turned that into a blog post. So, if your someone like me who is alone on this valentine’s day (but we are not all that sad about it) then keep on reading. But if your happy and in love or something then go find a “outfit ideas for dates” blog or video instead. Ok now with all that out of the way, enjoy the post.

            I say it’s not all that sad for me because I don’t necessarily want to be in a relationship. I can say that I want the happiness that seems to come from a relationship. But just the idea of being with someone kind of freaks me out. I am usually not comfortable talking about topics like these, but I told myself that I would push myself out of my comfort zone in 2024, so here goes nothing. I have never really dated or been on a date. I have been asked out before, but my first thought is to just turn them down. I also have never really liked anyone before. If I could just find a platonic best friend for life, then I would be content.

            I have learned in my psychology class recently that if you have a secure attachment style then your relationship will most likely last. So, if you are like that then good for you. Go enjoy your little Valentine’s date with your partner. For the rest of us who just like to be on our own, we will be home alone with our little self-care routine. And that is exactly what I will be doing on this day. Putting on a face mask, taking a nice long hot shower, baking something sweet for myself, and playing with my cat (I’m not helping the crazy cat lady allegations). If you want some recommendations for self-care products / ideas, then here is a small list for you.

Products:

 Sheet Masks

-       Papa Recipe Bombee Honey

-       Dr. Jart

-       Innisfree (use US site)

 Face Masks

-       Glow Recipe Watermelon Sleeping Mask

-       Innisfree Volcanic Clay Mask

-       Bubble Overnight Hydrating Sleep Mask

Misc:

-       Lush eye masks

-       Olaplex Hair Perfector No 3

-       The Ordinary Glycolic Acid 7%

-       Thisworks Pillow Sleep Spray

Ideas:

-       Use a shower diffuser (if you don’t have a tub like me)

-        Cook yourself a nice meal (finding a recipe on Pinterest is very easy)

-       Do somethings that you may be putting off (once you’ve completed these you will be very happy with yourself)

-       Wear your favorite comfy clothes and watch your favorite movie / series

-       You can just be lazy

    I can’t not talk about the smallest negative feeling I have about this holiday. Yes, the title of this blog post is being happy, but you have to acknowledge the sad feeling’s as well. You can’t escape the marketing for this day and the constant reminder that everyone else is dating. Even if you don’t want to be in a relationship, you still feel left out. Having that feeling is human nature, we all just want to fit in. I have this feeling all the time and honestly, I’m over it. When I was younger, I would think something was wrong with me because I never wanted to go out and meet people and go to parties. Every moment spent with people around me made me feel threatened. The only time I was at peace was when I was alone. But I was still battling this feeling in my head that I wanted to be with someone. I later came to realize I just wanted to become the people I saw being so happy in life, and part of that was being in a relationship. Maybe it was also a sort of social status thing. But in the end as I matured (and saw many people around me having breakdowns from said relationships) I wasn’t missing out on anything. The thing I was missing was knowing how to love myself.

            Yes, I know it sounds super cliché and would be plastered all over some craft store. But it’s true. I am still learning to do this. That is mainly why I started this blog and started my YouTube channel. I want to overcome my fears and start to finally live my life. I also want to help people who are also struggling with the same issues because not being seen or noticed when you’re in so much silent pain is torturous. I am at the point where I am just mad that I have wasted so much time being all sad and not doing anything to change my situation. Of course, I still have my depressed days where I can’t do anything, but I am still fighting inside to try. At least I am trying and not giving up. I got a little of topic there but back to my main point of this post.

            You can be happy when you are alone. Heck for some of us being alone is the ultimate happiness. You know you don’t have to be dating someone all the time (or even ever). It’s your life and live it how you like. At this point in 2024 just do it! (insert that meme here) yes, we will still have our days when we struggle but when we can achieve true happiness within ourselves, I believe that’s when we (or at least me) can be finally content with life.

- airry